Renewing Your Connection to Happiness
There was a time in my earlier years when I was really confused and I was certainly not full of authentic happiness. My life had “turned out” just as I had dreamed it would. I graduated school, I had a job and a nice place to live. I had friends, family, and a meaningful relationship. When I looked to my future, it was filled with brilliant, happy days. The part that I hadn’t planned on was how weird it was to complete my goals. Once achieved, I didn’t know what to do then.
I began to feel unhappy and I couldn’t pinpoint why. I tried all sorts of alternatives: I switched from walking to jogging, I got myself candles to create a house “nest”, I tried reading new books, yoga, and so on and on. As the weeks stacked up on each other, my bafflement mounted, and also my days started to be hazier. My sense of time warped, each day appearing to be longer and more directionless than the last. I wondered how I would ever find authentic contentment again. My sparkly future was now lack-luster. I had made the mistake of thinking that my life had “turned out”, rather than knowing that we all keep on living and challenge ourselves daily. Life is growth and human beings are a portion of life. Life will not stay stagnant nor do we.
One sunny day at the seashore, my entire perspective suddenly flipped and my life started in a whole new direction. As I walked past a lone female walking in the fine sand, a bolt of energy ran through me and I heard a voice say to me, “What if you could help individuals get past the thoughts and feelings that cause them pain?” That question shattered the previous lens through which I viewed life. I now saw that I was to put my entire life to good use for other people. Despite the hot sun’s rays on my skin, I got a chill, simply because I knew that I was back in my path to authentic happiness.
I saw that I had achieved goals in order to get my own unique, fundamental needs fulfilled: an education, a job, along with a dwelling. But, while my life purpose flipped, it consequently turned my goals, way too. For the first time, I noticed that getting my personal survival needs fulfilled was not how to determine the quality of my well being. I recognized, deep down, the difference between generating value (money) and creating value which may lead to money. I knew that creating value was to be the emphasis of my following set of goals; it will bring an end to the months of difficulty and confusion and I would find genuine happiness once more.
It didn’t mean that all I’d done prior to that instant was in useless, because, for me, learning how to earn money was an absolutely necessary prerequisite pertaining to finding out how to create value. Everything leading up to that moment was done which helped me to to achieve goals which I didn’t even recognize I had. My consciousness was reawakened, my hiding doubts were banished, and I was revived with my brand new purpose – I felt authentic happiness once again.
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