Tenacity – in wearing down you individual reluctance
Persistence is often defined as “the refusal to give up, especially when faced with opposition”.
There are are many ideas and strategies for creating change and becoming a lot more confident because of this. We are able to only make progress by giving up old habits in favour of the new ones; by altering old beliefs. It requires a distinct sort of determination.
The opposition we face here comes from within.
We can be our own worst enemy.
We become expert at finding ‘evidence’ to support our current beliefs and talking ourselves into keeping them. Conversations like “I knew that would happen,’ ‘It’s always the same”. And worst of all, “‘I’m never any good at doing that kind of thing.’ So we form a comfort zone that puts a limit on our abilities.
We must choose knowingly to set ourselves brand new thinking and persevere with ourselves in embracing them.
– Write down a belief you’ve got that prevents you performing at your very best (“I can’t enter a room filled with strangers.”, for instance).
– Write down the self-talk that fits this perception (“I am weak at this.”).
– Identify the comfort zone this puts you in (“Meeting other people fills me with dread and so I do not incorporate it within my set of abilities.”).
– Express the alternative of your restricting perception (“I look forward to strolling into a space filled with other people and really feel genuinely positive about doing so.”).
– Write down the brand new and constructive self-talk that matches this perception (“Walking right into a space filled with total strangers is one thing I really feel confident about.”).
– Identify the brand new and broadened comfort zone this puts you in.
– What is it like possessing this brand new perception?
– Imagine yourself whenever you have this new perception (“I see myself strolling right into a space filled with total strangers, being made welcome and speaking confidently.”).
– As an individual with this new found perception, go for a walk and behave as if you’re experiencing this new perception; become your brand new perception.
Now persevere until eventually your brand new thinking develops into your own “real belief”.
John Sproson works as a business coach and mentor to build self-confidence in professional business people and in organisational teams. He writes extensively online and blogs on how to build self confidence and uses a solution focussed approach.